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October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. 1 in 4 women have to face the tragedy of losing their child whether that’s to a miscarriage, still birth or infant loss.
Unfortunately, despite it being the 21st century, many bereaved parents find themselves incredibly alone and isolated at a time when they require the most support from those around them.
It is hard to believe but true that bereaved parents become the victims of judgement and assumptions – it is purely because of this that we find ourselves hiding from the rest of the world and locking our feelings away, how is that healthy?
Why has it become so difficult to talk about this? Why do we need a month to help recognise our forever bleeding wounds? What I personally experienced after losing my son I know many parents every single day have to heartbreakingly go through and it really shouldn’t be that way.
Despite having a good support network around me, I had never ever felt so alone in my life. All I ever wanted was acknowledgement which I have got eventually but it was needed at that time. I honestly don’t blame anyone because sadly this is something that everyone tries to avoid to talk about to each other, it’s something that is just avoided at all costs until you come face to face with it yourselves and you are left with no choice at all.
But the truth is..
Despite having a good support network around me, I had never ever felt so alone in my life. All I ever wanted was acknowledgement which I have got eventually but it was needed at that time. I honestly don’t blame anyone because sadly this is something that everyone tries to avoid to talk about to each other, it’s something that is just avoided at all costs until you come face to face with it yourselves and you are left with no choice at all.
But the truth is..
We are still parents, we still deserve that recognition, we should be able to talk about our Angels as much as we want without the fear of being judged – is it too much to ask?
Why not help break the silence?
Maybe just for once say nothing at all just be a listening ear? Many people end up saying the wrong thing to bereaved parents thinking that they are actually helping. Perhaps just a ‘I’m here for you’ can make a world of a difference.
Even though I am 1 in 4 – I am certainly not just a statistic or a number I am in fact a human being with a forever broken heart.
October 9th to 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Week with a global Wave of Light at 7pm on 15th October – all you have to do is light a candle in honour of all those precious babies gone too soon and share it with everyone to show your support.
Let’s help break the silence once and for all!
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